Forgiving Heart-an asset

Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheads on the heel that crushes it. Its takes an IDEAL heart to forgive, especially when the emotions run high. To FORGIVE doesnt essentially mean to FORGET. Is possible to forgive someone, without forgetting the pain the other had subjected you to ? And when i say that "Yes, it is possible", i speak from my own experience.

I am an emotional person right to the core.But if you try to verify this statement from my circle of friends, the answer you would most probably get is that i am a bold character who doesnt get emotionally disturbed easily....Well, i am not an expressive person when it comes to distress. But, the truth is i get dislodged easily. Especially when people with whom i am in intimate terms hurt me, i find it hard to forgive them. It stays in my heart for a very long time.And the misery that i go through, at those times cannot be told in words.Its so painful, that i get distracted in my work, even lose my appetite.This may continue for days depending on the person who offended me and on the type of offense.

My life used to be horrible, until i finally learned that it is doing ME more harm ,than the other person by not forgiving him/her.As i told, forgiving a person neednot mean you have to forget the entire incident. It would be a foolish act to forget how a person had treated you and fall into his prey-list once again.REMEMBER...so that you know what to expect from that person,understand what kind of friend he/she is... but beyond that, leave everything to God.

A scheming mind and a heart filled with revenge, hatred and anger can only bring more pain and agony to the owner.Infact, more to the owner than to the person to whom these negative emotions are directed.When God created the human heart, He well-equipped it with the necessary elements required to hold emotions like happiness,love,satisfaction.....But He somehow forgot about the negative emotions..When a heart breeds the so called negative emotions , that heart is prone to health complications like high blood pressure,hypertension,stress....the list is a long one..., and worst of all one forgets to see the good things in life.

Abraham Lincoln once quoted, "Arent you destroying your enemies when you make friends out of them ?" I truely feel its right to infer from the quote that we are reducing (if not destroying) our enemies and also making our own life worthwhile to live when we forgive them..